Feminised Face Of War Women's view of war has been trampled by a testosterone-fuelled charge. Now, they must be heard Mary Riddell The Observer September 23, 2001 The hour is coming. We are signed up to a war against a country that may or may not be harbouring a man who may or may not be responsible for the greatest terrorist atrocity of modern times. When reason falters, loss and rhetoric provide the spur. In the words of Tony Blair, speaking at a memorial service in New York: 'There is a land of the living, and a land of the dead, and the bridge is love.' Any time now, starvation or missiles may decree that thousands of Afghans embark on that last crossing with their children in their arms. Are we to tell them or ourselves that they walk it in the name of love? In this limbo, there is no tangible enemy, no obvious plan, no limits of engagement and no opposition, beyond Harold Pinter, American-hating lefties and a posse of tree-hugging women peaceniks. The polls suggest, and politicians demand, that British citizens want this war as much as Americans. We don't. Two supposedly harmonised nations have rarely been more distanced. The US mood, with the exception of New York, leans to violence. Gun sales are up by 70 per cent, fathers at primary-school gates talk of bombing Kabul to 'a parking lot', ignorant of the fact that such an objective would constitute a civic restoration programme. College boys enlisting for service long to die for their country. Dulce et decorum est. Do we want our sons to seek such desperate glory? Does Blair? Of course not. We can't even acknowledge a shadow on their lives, though we know that it deepens. We get it next, says the Metropolitan police commissioner, Sir John Stevens, but somehow the message fails to register. It isn't that we don't understand terrorism; we don't understand ourselves. While some of the US public believes that it is in this for retribution, we dream of reconciliation. The tent outside the US Embassy in Grosvenor Square is a testament to empathy, but also to a curious self-delusion. A shrine not to adult suffering but to childhood, it is full of stuffed animals and relics of infancy. Behind the teddy bears and Narnia books is a board of condolences. Some are in baby script. Some, from children as young as four, are computer-generated, with clever text-setting and angel graphics. These are not a tribute to the orphans of tragedy. Nor are they really from small children. They are from adults who crave a route back to innocence and forward to tranquillity. The messages in the condolence books mostly reflect the same theme. May we all now rest in peace. But how, when we are heading for a conflict whose unwinnable aim is world domination, rather than an essential accommodation with old enemies? You don't have to be a military strategist to realise the folly of thinking that the momentum of war shifts at Washington's whim and pace. But few dare object, when dissent is construed as an affront to the dead. Sorrow demands a totalitarian response, but already there are cracks. The Observer 's polling confirms women as the sceptics of a war devised, controlled and reported by men. Only two in 10 of us would support massive air strikes, and almost half don't endorse surgical ones. A mere 8 per cent have full confidence in Bush, and 83 per cent are against giving him unconditional support. We are less assured than men that a war on terrorism will make the world safer. We are more afraid. What does this make us? Victims, suggest most pundits. From the silent undead of the Taliban, in their carapace of veiling, to terrorised Muslim girls and the victims of Manhattan, women are, as ever, depicted as passive targets. Sixty-five per cent of lost in the Second World War were women and children. At the World Trade Centre, disproportionately many may have died. There are theories that men sprinting in flat shoes get out faster than women hampered by heels or waiting to help a colleague. Women are, allegedly, more likely to re-enter a crumbling building when told that it is safe to do so. Even for high fliers, death may reserve a final inequality. Whether bystanders or warriors, women are routinely portrayed as conflict's losers. Female soldiers, from Boadicea to a British Army lieutenant, have always appalled the sort of misogynistic British general who would have disqualified Joan of Arc from active service on the grounds of a poor performance on the gym leg-press machine. In his new book, Men, Women and War, Martin van Creveld argues, ludicrously, that one of the cardinal functions of warfare is an 'affirmation of masculinity'. Unlike women, whose lives are divided into biological phases, men need more 'social construction' and the chance to engage in armed combat unhampered by those whose role is to admire from afar. As Siegfried Sassoon could have told him, women can also be pugilists, demanding heroism from men sickened by killing. After Manhattan, a more significant role-reversal is happening. Women's response to Bush's war has been measured and thoughtful, while the emotional kitbox people like van Creveld see as female - the raucous emotion and febrile rhetoric - now belongs to men. 'Dead or alive' avengers and hysterical bio-prophets who fear an anthrax phial in every airline spongebag aren't displaying macho toughness. Theirs is the scared swagger of those who have seen in Manhattan not an invitation to a global dust-up but a cold intimation of how the world may end. Since they dare not acknowledge that danger, some other target must be found and pacifism is always easily parodied as the province of smoked-out Lennonistas, of beardy anarchists and feeble women. If only their lessons had been learned earlier. Instead, the Greenham Common campaigners who fought successfully to keep cruise missiles out were routinely derided as slags and dykes in dungarees. CND's broad aim of ensuring that the earth continues to revolve around the sun became so discredited that Blair, and others in Cabinet, shrink from any mention of their old links. Instead, Blair smiled on Bush's nuclear missile defence system, involving the tearing up of the Anti-Ballistic Missile Treaty. If civil war comes to Pakistan, there is nothing to stop a rogue regime writing its own nuclear protocol. As women have been warning for years, aggression only heightens our own fragility. But the issue is not old stereotypes of female nurturers and male aggressors. What counts now is what van Creveld scathingly calls the 'feminisation' of the world. Its current proponents are Clare Short, but also men like Peter Kilfoyle and Doug Henderson, who demand that action must be taken on the basis of the rule of law. As the old warhorses of the Left sign up to a feminised world, Blair, who has always belonged to it, begins to falter. Sidestepping the raw aggression of male warspeak, he and others invoke God and peace and the 'surging of the human spirit'. These pass for feminine invocations, but they are not ours. They do not resonate with our mothers, still carrying visions of husbands or brothers who died in the last war. They touch no chord in those of us who campaigned for CND, haunted by the 200,000 dead after Hiroshima and appalled by Truman's tribute to 'the greatest achievement of organised science in history'. Our wish was to protect our children, the last generation of Cold War babies, from whatever fissile blend grandstanding politics and organised science might next devise. We failed them. George Bush's hour is coming. A police chief warns that Britain is the next target. We have seen Manhattan. We have witnessed horror in the Middle East and watched African famine victims entwined with their children in the languid torpor of the hours before death. And yet we have no knowledge of how war this time around might look; only that the soft preamble is somehow more menacing than sabre-rattling. As retaliation gets closer, even Bush has abandoned redneck talk for a more feminised language of passion and eloquence. The rhetoric now is of life, death and love. The supposition is that no decent British woman, or man, could fail to render to Bush absolute and unconditional support for war. Millions of us may do so. I have not met a single one. Source: http://www.observer.co.uk/waronterrorism/story/0,1373,556621,00.html